Quote From: suem311Ramona
Be ware-take it slow. Having married at 23 to a 37 year old didn't seem like a problem at the time. Now, at 51 and he's 65 everything has changed. I'm not ready to stop and he is. I want to go out and he doesn't. Sex is over-has been for several years. Medical probably, but he won't go see a doctor. Many more issues than I bargained for.
Susan
Maybe it's the fact that you just married the wrong man? I happened to be 23 and my husband was 39 when we were married. That was over 21 years ago. We still have a wonderful and full life despite the fact that I am the one who ended up with a disability. (Severe Chronic Pain with my back and Fibromyalgia) Our sex is is still just as satisfying if not more than it was in the beginning. Actually it's better because of the 23 years we have spent getting to know everything about each other.
My husband turned 60 last June and it's still hard for me to even comprehend because he does not look or act his age. To us age is just a number. We even have a larger age difference than you do. We've obviously talked about the things that come along with his getting older and if he were to have problems, he would certainly seek help from a doctor because he's not ready to give up that part of his life. I imagine he won't be willing to give that up for many years now.
Seriously the age difference between us is not a problem at all. We are soul mates and were meant to be together. I will always believe that. I also take offense when people on this message board make disparaging remarks and call older men "old farts" and say they look like our "grandpa". Nothing could be further from the truth. I wish people could have more tact and realize that some of us are actually married to older men. It's very insulting. I'm incredibly proud to be seen with my husband and he still has women falling all over themselves to get his attention.
I really wish this entire "age" thing would be put to rest and people would just get over it!
