Replies to '06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"'

Straight people don't realize that gay people are born gay. They assume that because we are different that we must have chosen to be different for some completely irrational reason. HOMOSEUALITY IS NOT A CHOICE. I WAS BORN GAY AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME! final

Well no it is said that children are not born gay because 4/5/6y is to early to have a sexual nature, that also is true that you are not born straight because they don't have a sexual nature, the same is true for bisexual. The childs brain is not ready to cope with that yet, the earliest talking about sex begins at age 10 but in a gigly kind of way the first boy girl relationships start to form at age 12 but more in a gigly kind of way, the real sexual preference only starts in mid puberty most gays feel at age 16/17 that they do not want to seek a partner from the opposite sex. so at that point the true for life sexual preference is developt. So the age that they are ready to have sex the sexual preference matures and not sooner (study of durex in 2004 reveals that 16.9 is the time most people loose verginity) 

  

Well as far as I understand from gays who treid out the opposite sex it pretty much works in the same way, you just fall in love. And maybe you cannot see yourself with one of the same sex but that is something completly different, I cannot see myself making love to a man but I do not see a difference in the just falling in love part instead of choosing to fall in love. 

The question is ment to be, "When did you know that you were straight? When did you choose to be straight?" 

  

As a gay male, for as long as I can remember as a child, I wanted to be a girl. Why? Because girls marry boys.  

  

I remember, as an adolesent, choosing to be straight, haveing hompsexual thoughts, and replacing those thoughts with straight sex. Left me in constant conflict, internally, and ultimately, left many girls hurt and used. 

  

Love is someting that is found in one's heart and mind towards others.  

- If you are a man, and know and love your father, this does not make you gay, yet you know love for another man. 

- If you are a woman, and know and love your mother, then the same applies. 

  

The expression of love towards another person of the same sex seems to be what you do not fully understand. Please sepperate the sex act from the feelings for a moment and remember back to when you loved another person of the same sex. It comes from your heart, not your groin. 

  

Your choice on expressing your love on a physical level is a choice. As to whom and how. Be it a handshake, a kiss or hug, or sex. We all choose to whom and how we show our love.  

  

However, when it comes to physical sex, I can speek from the point of knowing when I chose to be straight, and have straight sex. Didn't work for me and I was not a happy person. Not a happy person for the internal struggle I felt and not happy for the "use-en and lose-em" pattern I saw happening because of the internal conflict. 

  

But once I came out and realized that I was lying to myself, I fell in love. :0