Replies to '06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"'

Anjela's sexuality (desire) is not a choice.  Her reaction toward her sister is probably a result of all the homophobia, and more importantly, the Heterosexism of our society.  The point is, those who are in heterosexual relationships can flaunt it, and indeed almost unconsciously do so all the time.  The all pervasive forces of Heterosexism require constant "proof" of heterosexuality in our society, especially in males.  Witness the epidemic of  young men going around fathering one child after another with different women.  Think it's because they're SO attracted to women?  I think not.   

Look at a typical work place or office.  Everyone talks openly of their opposite sex relationships/marriages.  If anyone dared to mention a same sex marriage/relationship, they're scolded for "flaunting their lifestyle."  Yet, if  an office worker who is homosexual or in a same sex relationship chooses to keep private about it, and many do, the colleagues in the office try to PRY their private lives out of them.  And if they refuse to talk of a personal life, they're regarded as unfriendly, weird, or worse yet, they're assumed to be homosexual, whether they're in a relationship or not. 

This is the kind of harassment that homosexual people have to put up with all the time in a Heterosexist society.  It's no wonder Anjela is a bit hostile toward her sister and other heterosexuals who can take the flaunting of their lifestyle for granted. 

BTW, assuming that a person wearing a wedding/commitment ring is heterosexual, is one of the aspects of our culture of Heterosexism, as is assuming that one's new born baby will grow up and marry heterosexually.