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Replies to '07/06 Baby Wars'
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October 23, 2008, 4:41 pm PDT
 Quote From: meagsrenae This whole idea of "reproductive rights" shows how arrogant we are in this country. We set ourselves up as gods over our own bodies, shaking our finger in the face of biology and say, "Now you better not do what I don't want you to do." Then we act so offended when biology does its job and we completely run from the responsibility of our actions. This is true for female and male reproductive "rights." The women that were on the show with these "men" today are typical women in that they strip their husbands and sons of their manhood and completely defend their lack of masculinity. The mother of the first guest and the wife of the second are failing to hold these men up to a standard that is continually falling. Being able to have sex does not make you a man. Being able to pleasure a woman does not make you a man. Being able to father children does not make you a man. What makes you a man is being able to stand up in difficult times and take on the responsibility of your action - not blaming other people for being in a situation that you'd rather not be in. What if these guys had gotten an STD? What if they found themselves to be HIV positive? Would they then have said, "I don't want to have HIV so it doesn't really exist."??? Women act the same way in this country. They act offended that an "unplanned" pregnancy has taken place and so they quote their "rights' all the way to the abortion clinic. My advice for those having sex without wanting children....plan on the unexpected. Some of what you stated I agree with. However; a man should also be given a window of opportunity to opt out of the pregnancy just as a woman has the same window to get an abortion. You see, I got someone pregnant 15 yrs ago and I received that dreaded phone call early one morning stating that this woman was 8 1/2 months pregnant and she was sure that it was mine. So tell me what happen to my choices? We then ended up in court along with 2 other defendants. Because she did not know who the father was and I was failed to be served the proper court papers 2 the wrong address. So needless to say the other defendants were dropped from the case and I was deemed to be the father for not appearing in court. After 2 appeals and countless attempts to have a DNA test performed had been denied. I am still paying child support that is continuing to inflate every 3 years due to the fact that the child's mother never did anything with her life. My wife and I finally convince this woman and my daughter(14 years old now) to have a legal DNA test performed. Only because my daughter wanted to meet me and had to have my signature in order to get a passport. Now, what sort of father can I be to her since her mother had kept her from me, moved out of sate without telling me, and there had been no contact up until now. And then BAM! the next think I know I am now paying 450.00 per plane ticket to fly her out from Arizona to be with me, my wife and our daughter. She has now flown out here 3 times, and it is even harder to connect with her that I had originally anticipated. She does not talk much and when she does it is about sex. So I suppose that since all my rights as a human being, not a man, had been taken away and kept away for the past 15 years. That now I guess I should accept her as a friend and not as a daughter. And finally, my wife and I are sick of the " my mom doesn't have any money". I pay the state maxium for 1 child in the state of Fla. and I carry the best medical and dental plan that my hospital provides which cost me about 156.00 every 2 weeks and she gets 360.00 every 2 weeks also. So yes I am a little bitter about this whole subject because if I had been given the chance to take a DNA test 14 years ago then my relationship with my daughter would be a lot different and who knows she might even be living with me and my family by now. |
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