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Quote From: cree_candy

I'm faced with many delimas right now, My partner of 7 yrs (3 of which we were engaged) finally speaks up and says he wants to "he's done, he's sacrificed too much and were thru". We are still living  together but in separate everything. I hate it, because in my mind I have made all the sacrifices, we broke up because I finally stood up for myself 3 times in the past year over his drinking..  i taold him how it makes me feel and how he can help us but he's stubborn, he can drink up to $200 - 300 a night and not come home till late afternoon the next day.. he has never disclosed who he was with, why he had to stay out all night and day or why he had to spend so much while out. Meanshile i stay at home with our 4 kids wondering and waiting and literally feeling disrespected unappreciated and knowing he'll flip out on me for even asking anything about his nights out.. he then doesn't feel trusted.. get this i haven't had a night out without kids since 2001! I have gone for coffee a couple of times but 1/2 hour into my time out he calls n needs me home.  Now i admit 85 % of the time he's disconnected from our family, he's a workaholic, and he does make an awesome dad and he has been good to me... at times. But now I either have to move closer to my kids school or stay right where i am or move to where my job is 2 hours away. the place closer to the school will cost 300.00 more a month but its closer for them, where i am now i can live without him, and me and the kids have no supports in the town i work. What would Dr. Phil tell me to do. I do want to keep him in our lives with me as my partner i'm used to him and he is really all i have... I do not want to give up on us we do share many things, only thing is our social lives they are so different and not shared thats where all our probs stem from... please share anything that will help me decide thanx 4 reading