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October 27, 2008, 6:15 pm PDT
 Quote From: anne124 These women are coming off as "fake". Honestly, a man wants a long term woman that is genuine in nature, caring, less of a "shopper", and needs to be needed by him. The first woman has been married 3 times already...so it's obvious she's doing something wrong herself. Will a 4th marriage work out for her? Probably not. She needs to be more introspective, less of a hunter, and have a more sincere personality. Open yourself up to realness ladies...and love will find you. :) As for the 45 year old man who spoke, he IS carrying "candy"...it's in the form of "money" or more stability. A 28 year old usually does not know herself yet, so a man can "mold" her to be what he wants. Men for the most part are very insecure and love to CONTROL things (including the remote TV control)! ;) Yes, it's true older women should not give off the sense they don't need love, or a man to be successful, yet men need to gain the knowledge that often older women have more to offer as far as "substance" in a partnership. If you know yourself, you are ready to love others. I don't agree with the "millionaire matchmaker" that she should be creating the "package " in women, for these men to view. Relationships that are superficial and not authentic, are doomed to failure. Marriage is NOT a business deal. But I do agree the matchmaker has goal oriented strategies to snare love, and make yourself more approachable. Often those not looking, are the ones to find love...perfect time and place have something to do with it. Love is hard to find. Be patient, be realistic, and DON'T run after the "fairytale". Men will NEVER live up to the fairytale dream girls and women place on them! Soap Opera's are a FANTASY ladies!!! :) Good luck, Anne from MI I found my Prince Charming and I am living the fairytale. I am 44 and my husband is 60. There is a 16 year age difference between us. We have also been very happily married for over 21 years and together before that for 2. When we met he had just come out of a 19 year marriage and had custody of his 3 teenage children. I will admit that it wasn't easy for that first year, teenagers can be difficult, but a man with with so called baggage is not a good reason to overlook him. Ladies, you just might toss your Prince and kiss frogs forever if you don't want a man with "baggage". I hate that word! And as to my man wanting to control me, no, he has never tried to change anything about me. We have spent the last 23 years teaching each other our different strengths. He's a very calm man and I will say that after all of these years he has rubbed off on me to where I am a much calmer person also. The best way to put my marriage to this man is that I am a better person for having known him. I can never thank him enough for that! And BTW, I have control of the remote control! I kissed a lot of frogs before I met this wonderful man and I'm so incredibly happy that I was able to see him for who he is rather than what so called baggage he came with. What makes it even kind of funny is the fact that we were set up on a blind date, a first for both of us, and look what happened. He was also not even my type! But by keeping an open mind I have found the fairytale and expect to live happily ever after. As to the rest of your post, I happen to agree! |
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