Quote From: lunastarI'm going through something similar.
"Rafael says his wife forces him to be the hammer because shes too lenient. "
Sounds all too familiar to me. My husband says the same thing. He says I let our daughter walk all over me. And he says it in front of her.
Due to an incident which occurred 2 and a half months ago, he has been removed from our home and now is only allowed to have supervised 2 hour visits once a week with our daughter, and if he acts up the visit is terminated immediately.
He has very little contact with me, and only through email, and only about household decisions or subjects relating to our daughter. Nothing personal, no accusations, no funny business.
He was making our daughter cry at least once a day, and then giving her a hard time over it. He verbally abused both of us, and I kept making justifications for why he was doing this. When people in public asked "what's with him?" I would say he was having a bad day, or he had lost his job or something to try and justify his behaviour. I blamed myself a lot too.
Our daughter is 6 years old
I really hope this mom and her daughter get the support, help and love they need, and this man gets out of their home, gets into therapy and take an anger management course.
I can't wait til Friday to watch this episode.
I am now 70 years old, married and the mother of 5 children. During the years up until I was 16, my father singled me out to abuse. He called me the most terrible words that I can't write them down. He was an alcoholic and would nearly beat my mother to death. My self esteem is 0 and I have lived a life of depression and fear of speaking up for my needs. I too was sexually abused (by an uncle). I had 6 siblings and none of them were treated the way I was. When my father would start beating my mother I would start screaming and putting myself in front of her. I have attended many 12-step programs but it is not that easy to erase from my mind the things that happened to me. He always told me I was an ugly little bastard, that I was a worthless and the one word he used that would send chills down my mind was to call me a "cocksucker." I was second in the family and I don't know if that means anything. I never speak up to my husband and he just doesn't understand the depression. I have been to many counselors but my husband would never attend. Now, we only have about $1500.00 a month to live on so I am unable to afford any further counseling. Please tell me how I can get rid of this pain and fear!!. I do take an antidepressant daily and I take something to help me sleep. These men never change. I got married at 16 to get away from this and my husband was 25. He is kind and loving (my mother picked him out for me) . My dearest mother was an angel but she had nowhere to go with 7 children. Thank you for letting me vent this!
