Quote From: trickyvicki65i have a question, as to what other people consider cheating. im married, been for 12 years. my husband seems to think,( not that in a million years it would ever happen), that me being sexual with a female would not be cheating. he does think being with a male is cheating. i my self think both are cheating because you are being intimate with someone else. my self esteem is not at best when it comes to our relationship because of other issues. so knowing he feels like this really hurts me because it makes me feel even less important. i need to hear someones input on this, cause i really dont have any friends that i would want to admit this to. i just need to know if im being silly or does anyone besides myself think this is cheating. also i do understand men find it exciting seeing women together, but not me the wife!! please someone give me some advice or let me know how you feel. HELP!!!!!
I would consider it cheating...but you're right most men have some warped fantasy about two women. He would think it was weird if you wanted to see him with another guy, or had a thing about seeing two guys together. It really is a double standard when it comes to this issue. Not to get too personal here, but a friend of mine kept complaining that her husband always wanted to have anal sex, and she did not like it. i suggested that the next time he brought it up that she agree to it as long as he lets her try it on him first. She did this, and his response was "no, that will hurt", she was able to explain to him that the feeling was no different for her. And he never brought it up again...Sometimes it takes putting the shoe on the other foot to see something from someone elses point of view. What some people think is cheating, may obviosuly not be to someone else. I would not worry about it too much unless this is something that he continually brings up, making you feel uncomfortable. It's ok to tell someone how that makes you feel and you'd rather not discuss it. If he persists, then there may be a problem.
Good luck
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