Quote From: toolatemomIt is all confusing and I don't know that anyone has the answers. I do think you need to be careful with kids so young. Steer them the way they 'appear' to be lovingly and time will tell.
I can say that I had a son we suspected as being gay but we were ignorant, condemned such things in front of him. To make a long story short, he died at 36, having a great career, of a drug overdose. Found he lived two lives. The one for the person he really was and the other as a show of who he thought everyone thought he should be. The drugs were from the pain he lived with and his parents were the cause of most of it. We learned too late. Why would anyone choose to 'want' to be gay. I now understand and am active in a local PFLAG chapter.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I admit I have not read all the messages as there are just too many. Your caught my eye as you said " Why would anyone choose to 'want' to be gay". Sad truth is my son has. My son was a normal boy growing up all through high school same thing. He was very smart and I guess you could of called him a nerd. He is now 23 years old, has had the same girlfriend for 3 years. This girlfriend is the artsy type and is into theater. My son would go to a night club that has people dressed gothy almost anything goes, but his girlfriend never went. My son is about 5'11 and very skinny. He started to dye his hair and dress in unisex cloths. Two weeks ago he called me to say he was breaking up with his girlfriend and by the way I also want to be a girl, I am transgender. What??? In shock I asked him if he was gay? His reply was no. He went to a doctor and in one visit somehow convinced this doctor to give him pills that block testosterone (he says "he can't handle testosterone). He is also going to be put on estrogen this Friday. The kicker is he says he wants to be a girl but also date girls. He wants to be gay???? If you like girls then stay a boy.
I am at a loss here as he is legal age and does not want to listen, does not want help. He has somehow convinced a doctor he is transgender. He has a whole new set of friends (we have never met) he hangs out with (not one childhood friend). He has a new girlfriend who calls him "she" (I have never met her). My son does not seem to care what anyone thinks and seems to be loving the attention he gets when people look at him weird.
Do I understand any of this.........no
He's an adult and by law he can do as he wants and his family has no say. His father and sister know but no one else.
I am sorry to say but people who go through the sex change operation will never be male or female, they will be "its". They will always have to be on medication to keep them looking the sex they were not born as. They will never truely be the sex they were not born as.
I love my son, I only wish I could help him.
