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October 29, 2008, 9:30 am PDT
It's called Empathy.
Quote From: t_wolfman2087it is easy for someone who has never dealt witht the issue to say what they "would or should do" in this situation. But speaking from first hand experience it is destructive to a childs psychy to force them (a TG child) to live a way that their mind tells them is wrong. I have aa best friend from high school who is TG. I watched as his parents tried to force him to dress and act like a boy. Everyday he would come to school depressed beyong belief. I found him one day in the bathroom with his arms cut open for crying out loud, this due to the fact that; according to his journal; he planned on killing himself because his father told him that if he did not change, he would never accept him as his son or daughter. Why is it so hard for someone to just accept another person for who they are and not how this twisted society tells us we should act. We can accept biggomists and thieves and homosexuals but we cannot accept a guy who wants to be a girl or vise versa? To try to force these people into living a lie shows you to be selfish, self-serving, hypocritical (as in the case of the gentleman from the show who argued the parents should step up), and insecure in their own standing. People should learn to just accept others and stop being so overcritical and just worry about what is going on with themselves.
Now to get to the parents on the show. I applaud you for supporting your children. If the parents cannot accept and support their own children who will? Now about the hormonal theropy. NO NO NO NO NOOO!!!! Absolutely Not! In some cases in fact more often then not this is just a stage that children go through when they are influenced more by the opposite sex then their own. Wait to see if your child will grow out of it first. If not after puberty this is a topic that must be discussed between the parents, child, and (i stress this point) a licensed psychiatric professional. Hormonal theropy is a life changing decission. Do not take it lightly. If you are not sure you are doing the right thing, take a look at your child, is he/she happy, or does he/she always seem to be depressed? You as the parent will know when you look at your childs emotional well being as to whether you are doing the right thing or not. I don't have to break my arm to know that it hurts. I don't have this particular issue in my life, but I can tell you what I would do. I would love my child and support them no matter what. When I was 16, my best friend killed himself because he was outed. His parents where bible thumping born again monsters. They didn't have the first clue about what love means. Love is unconditional or it’s not love.
He came to my house to tell me what happened. His mother had peeled his arms from around her neck, pushed him away like he was something slimy and distasteful. She said he was going to hell and that he made her sick. His bags were on the front step. He was not to come back until he found god... their version of god of course. He was in shock. I told him not to do anything crazy (like run away). He was always so crazy and fun. He was beautiful inside and out. We always joked that you could see his flame from space. I loved him just the way he was. I digress... the memories are bittersweet. Anyway, I asked my parents if we could take him in. I explained all the whys and wherefores truthfully. My parents agreed. My parents are pretty old fashioned and don't understand homosexuals, but they understand love, and his parents disgusted them.
He said he had to get his things from home. I told him I'd come as soon as I talked to my parents. When I got there, emergency vehicles were just pulling away. He was dead. He broke into his home and hanged himself in the basement. His parents had him cremated and never picked up his ashes. His sister finally took them when she was 18.
Kindness impresses me. Acceptance impresses me. Understanding impresses me. Love impresses me. This is one of many events that have shaped my life and my attitudes. I’m not saying it is always easy, but it is something to strive for. No one has the right to define you, control you, or determine your future.
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