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October 30, 2008, 10:01 am PDT
10/29 Gender Confused Children
Quote From: efffy_I don't have to break my arm to know that it hurts. I don't have this particular issue in my life, but I can tell you what I would do. I would love my child and support them no matter what. When I was 16, my best friend killed himself because he was outed. His parents where bible thumping born again monsters. They didn't have the first clue about what love means. Love is unconditional or its not love. He came to my house to tell me what happened. His mother had peeled his arms from around her neck, pushed him away like he was something slimy and distasteful. She said he was going to hell and that he made her sick. His bags were on the front step. He was not to come back until he found god... their version of god of course. He was in shock. I told him not to do anything crazy (like run away). He was always so crazy and fun. He was beautiful inside and out. We always joked that you could see his flame from space. I loved him just the way he was. I digress... the memories are bittersweet. Anyway, I asked my parents if we could take him in. I explained all the whys and wherefores truthfully. My parents agreed. My parents are pretty old fashioned and don't understand homosexuals, but they understand love, and his parents disgusted them. He said he had to get his things from home. I told him I'd come as soon as I talked to my parents. When I got there, emergency vehicles were just pulling away. He was dead. He broke into his home and hanged himself in the basement. His parents had him cremated and never picked up his ashes. His sister finally took them when she was 18. Kindness impresses me. Acceptance impresses me. Understanding impresses me. Love impresses me. This is one of many events that have shaped my life and my attitudes. Im not saying it is always easy, but it is something to strive for. No one has the right to define you, control you, or determine your future. I AGREE! The sooner people become more accepting of different lifestyles, the better the world will be. One of my biggest confusions about Christian faiths is they are so "set" that it's black and white and these lifestyles are a choice and should not be accepted. YET, the whole basis of their religions is to be "Christlike". How soon we forget that Christ loved everyone unconditionally, no matter if they were sinners or saints and accepted everyone. He didn't judge, he opened his arms and accepted. I don't understand how they think a little kid could "choose" to be gay or would even KNOW what being gay is about. They are that way because they are born that way. The sooner we become more accepting, the fewer suicides we have and less depressed, confused children. Just let them be who they are--they will figure it out and just love them for who they are. The Christian followers are the first to disown, ignore or refuse alternative lifestyles in their own families--but they should be the MOST accepting of anyone! Don't they strive to be more like Christ????
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