Replies to '06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"'

The question is ment to be, "When did you know that you were straight? When did you choose to be straight?" 

As a gay male, for as long as I can remember as a child, I wanted to be a girl. Why? Because girls marry boys.  

I remember, as an adolesent, choosing to be straight, haveing hompsexual thoughts, and replacing those thoughts with straight sex. Left me in constant conflict, internally, and ultimately, left many girls hurt and used. 

Love is someting that is found in one's heart and mind towards others.  

- If you are a man, and know and love your father, this does not make you gay, yet you know love for another man. 

- If you are a woman, and know and love your mother, then the same applies. 

The expression of love towards another person of the same sex seems to be what you do not fully understand. Please sepperate the sex act from the feelings for a moment and remember back to when you loved another person of the same sex. It comes from your heart, not your groin. 

Your choice on expressing your love on a physical level is a choice. As to whom and how. Be it a handshake, a kiss or hug, or sex. We all choose to whom and how we show our love.  

However, when it comes to physical sex, I can speek from the point of knowing when I chose to be straight, and have straight sex. Didn't work for me and I was not a happy person. Not a happy person for the internal struggle I felt and not happy for the "use-en and lose-em" pattern I saw happening because of the internal conflict. 

But once I came out and realized that I was lying to myself, I fell in love. :0