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October 29, 2008, 8:54 pm PDT

10/29 Gender Confused Children

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Here is a simple thought, as a child i was raised in a household where my step father sexually abused me for several years, after my mom finally left him, i was left with a mom and two sisters to grow up around> Gender confused? no! it is called no positive male role model. My mom started me into the Big brothers/big sister program. I still have some female charactoristics, but i am all male and love being a male and i love women. Any parent that would foster an 8 year olds desire to cross dress etc, should be taken aside and have their heads checked. I think they left their brains at home.

You are not Transgender. Why do you try to compare your situation of being a victim of sexual abuse to someone being born Transgender? They are very different.

A child who identifies with the opposite sex will continue to do that regardless of what behavior  the parent does or does not permit. A parent needs to be sensitive to the needs of their child.  Telling a child he/ she is wrong or sinful for just being themselves will undermine the child's self esteem.  Some children may grow out of this, many will not. The child needs to be loved for whatever gift that they are and not judged.

 
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October 30, 2008, 4:00 am PDT

No positive male role model?

Quote From: nohsp4u

Here is a simple thought, as a child i was raised in a household where my step father sexually abused me for several years, after my mom finally left him, i was left with a mom and two sisters to grow up around> Gender confused? no! it is called no positive male role model. My mom started me into the Big brothers/big sister program. I still have some female charactoristics, but i am all male and love being a male and i love women. Any parent that would foster an 8 year olds desire to cross dress etc, should be taken aside and have their heads checked. I think they left their brains at home.

  Do you have any idea how many women raise children alone these days and their children are "not" gender confused? That is a ridiculous statement! My parents were married for 27 years, until the day when my father passed. They had 4 girls and only one boy.

  My father was rarely home because he worked out of town, building golf courses. Sometimes he would be away for 3 months at a time. My mother essentially raised us. So here is my brother, surrounded by females, with his father away from home most of the time. Is he a woman or gender confused now? NO! He's all male, believe me, he's all male.

  As a matter of fact, 3 of us girls were tomboys while we were growing up, riding dirt bikes and going target practicing (with guns). When my brother entered the Air Force he was so good that he automatically qualified as a sharp shooter and received a stripe for it. I, a female, was almost as good as he was. But I also had and still do have, my feminine side. All of us girls do.

  So trying to blame this on having no positive role model just doesn't work and sends a false message out there to women who are raising children on their own.

 


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