Quote From: philfan61Your "gut suspicions" are telling you everything you need to know. This guy is probably too old for you. I dated and married a guy 16 years older than myself when I was 30. He had been married twice before. Big mistake. Egotistical, selfish and immature. I am a sensitive soul, and he was the most callous person I'd ever dated. Bad combo. The crack the guy made about his thinking you were 30 was made to keep you emotionally and mentally "offi balance" and unsure of yourself. He has a hangup about being 20 years older than you are, so he tries to convince you that you have a lot of "life mileage" so you'll respond by being a grateful doormat. He'll treat you like a child and then wonder out loud why don't you grow up. You don't need this crazy-making. I'm assuming you are self-supporting and not with him for financial reasons. Try to find someone a little closer to you in age, 10 years difference is a little iffy, but better than 20. You can do it. Remember, "If You Think You Can't...You're Right....If You Think You Can...You Are Also Right. I had to learn to be happy by myself for a while so I could figure out why I attracted predators and then stop the behavior. This may be true for you. Blessings.
What an odd post you have made here. You have completely annihilated this man by just one comment from him. He may want her for a notch on his belt, or he may have just been giving her a compliment. We don't know we weren't there.
Just because you had a bad relationship or marriage to a man who was 16 years older doesn't mean that it won't work for someone else. I have been very happily married to my husband who happens to be 16 years older than me for 21 years now. We have everything in common and I wasn't "picked" by him for a trophy wife. We are just plain old compatible in every way. He is not immature nor does he ever treat me like a child.
Maybe you have just picked the wrong men and age had nothing to do with it. I do agree though that if this woman is feeling uncomfortable with her date then maybe he's just not the right man for her. I would be much more concerned over the fact that a man has already been married twice. The lack of being able to hold onto a relationship may show that he has problems that has nothing to do with age.
