Quote From: rlanthierIf only sexual attraction were a choice. We could 'choose' to be attracted to anybody, depending on their availability, and other more practical factors. Even heterosexuals could decide to be attracted to partners that would ordinarily not be considered attractive- the disfigured, the grossly obese etc..
I could choose to find broccoli delicious - which I despise. In fact I could to find all the healthy things delicious and none of the unhealthy foods. But unfortunately that's not how desires and attraction work.
"Even heterosexuals could decide to be attracted to partners that would ordinarily not be considered attractive- the disfigured, the grossly obese etc.. "
Are you suggesting that no one heterosexual or homosexual) is attracted to someone who is disfigured? Or that it is harder to be attracted to someone who is not considered attractiveby societal norms?
Several years ago there was a show, LA Law, which featured two of the partners who fell in love and got married. The writers of the show received numerous letters from people who insisted that it implausible and improbable that these two people would fall in love and get married. They based all of their protests on the the outward beauty of the woman and the 'ordinary' and 'short' and 'dumpy looking' appearance of the man.
What could the writers respond in the face of protestors' societal expectations that this woman would never be attracted to this man? They responded with the truth - these actors were married - to each other - in the real world.
Loving someone is a choice - that goes far beyond someone's outward appearance - homosexual, or straight. I would imagine that writers on both sides would suggest this to you. A relationship built on the superficial will eventually crumble. And attraction often goes deeper than the skin - and those first 'wow' moments. That would account for those who fall in love with someone they've never 'seen'.
