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November 7, 2008, 2:52 am PST
 Quote From: hangouttodry Crazy day today. My 82 year old Dad is having surgery. Packing a bag of distractions and fruit. The hopsital actually has quite a nice and cheap salad bar, and lots of stairs, so I always have a choice. That's what I find so nuts about being overweight. Most people know what to do, we just don't do it. We're getting smarter and dumber at the same time. I'm re-reading the book. Especially healing feelings. Had a hard time with that the first time, and honestly, kind of skipped over it. Having trouble finding the feelings to heal, I guess. Nothing significant seems to have kick started weight-gain for me. Not that I have been able to find anyways. Just slowly crept up and up over the last bunch or years. But I will go over it again and do some soul searching and see what I can come figure out!
Have a great day! Fabulous weather today where I am. 19 celcius (sorry, don't do farenheit very well!)
Pam
Don't worry about farenheit--I don't know celcuis well and I lived in the Middle and Far East where British influence definately make celcuis the scale. But, In Bahrain/Dubai, it was so hot most of the time that there were no weather reports. Everyone knew what the weather was going to be like. Glad it is nice. It turned off nice here, too. Most people would complain but it's cool enough for a sweter again.
You are so right. Most of us know what to do, but just don't seem to do it. Even when we are in "control" (as much as we can be, anyway) of the rest of our lives, we can still be out of control on the food.
I have learned over the years (and working with a physhologist after my divorce) that the hurt or angry feelings were just dragging me down. There were some resentments that I'd been carrying for years. Most of them I've been able to let go of by deciding that I can't control what others do--I can only control how I react. Really believing that and believing that we are and feel based on the choices we make, I made the dedicated choice to bow out of the blame game. People are what they are and they behave based on who/what they are. My mother didn't intend to hurt me, she is a very self-centered and believes that everything revolves around her. Huge anger in my life for some of the things she did----but I realize she was always the same person and it was my luck to be born as her daughter. Fortunately, God gave me a good balance in my life: my grandmother and my mother-in-law both were big "mother" forces in my life.
But no matter how hard we try to be what everyone else needs, we will still make mistakes. And, if we aren't careful we will lose the "me" just to please others---which usually means for me, more weight piled on somewhere.
You dad will be in my prayers, Pam. My parents are 88, so I've done my time at the hospital. Sounds like you are ready. Hope you were able to make some good choices and took a great book that you couldn't stop reading to pass the time.
Hugs, Anita
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