Replies to '06/09 Love Triangle'

 I happen to be a stepmother of 3 now grown children. Obviously my husband has an ex wife. I happen to find it extremely irresponsible for the divorced parents to have an affair after the husband has already remarried. What does this lead to? It will lead to hard feelings between the two women, who should be working together to make sure that the children's lives are as unblemished and unhurt by the divorce in the first place. The new stepmother will probably call the other woman names in front of the children, (and I can imagine with good reason although I don't approve) and as stated in the topic box above strict rules will be put in place when the parents need to discuss the children or when they are to be passed from one parent to another. Can you even imagine how uncomfortable and how much tension there will be in the future because of this? They will have a lifetime of being being forced into the same gatherings, weddings, graduations, school functions, etc.. How unfair to allow this to ever happen in the first place? It is nothing but a set up for disaster! In the end the children will be hurt and hard feelings will be held against some, probably the stepmother because of the very tight reins she will have to have on her husband and of course the names they will hear their mother called. Let's also not forget the fighting, didn't they get enough of that while their parents were going through a divorce? If this new marriage even lasts I will be shocked. As a stepmother myself I have always had full trust in my husband when he has had to interact with his ex wife. If you can't have that, then you don't have much of a chance of surviving. It's hard enough to deal with all of this in the first place, but to have to deal with an affair between the two of them is asking too much of any wife. How selfish can two people be?

 I happen to be a stepmother of 3 now grown children. Obviously my husband has an ex wife. I happen to find it extremely irresponsible for the divorced parents to have an affair after the husband has already remarried. What does this lead to? It will lead to hard feelings between the two women, who should be working together to make sure that the children's lives are as unblemished and unhurt by the divorce in the first place. The new stepmother will probably call the other woman names in front of the children, (and I can imagine with good reason although I don't approve) and as stated in the topic box above strict rules will be put in place when the parents need to discuss the children or when they are to be passed from one parent to another. Can you even imagine how uncomfortable and how much tension there will be in the future because of this? They will have a lifetime of being being forced into the same gatherings, weddings, graduations, school functions, etc.. How unfair to allow this to ever happen in the first place? It is nothing but a set up for disaster! In the end the children will be hurt and hard feelings will be held against some, probably the stepmother because of the very tight reins she will have to have on her husband and of course the names they will hear their mother called. Let's also not forget the fighting, didn't they get enough of that while their parents were going through a divorce? If this new marriage even lasts I will be shocked. As a stepmother myself I have always had full trust in my husband when he has had to interact with his ex wife. If you can't have that, then you don't have much of a chance of surviving. It's hard enough to deal with all of this in the first place, but to have to deal with an affair between the two of them is asking too much of any wife. How selfish can two people be?