You ARE on to something with your post... but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE dont think of the absolute sickest, most depraved thing you can think of ( sexual abuse) when looking at an obese person.
I am a food addict, I like to say food lover, and I always will be even though I am recovering. I never got hugely big. I am now a misses size 14-18 depending on the garment and am aiming to be a solid size 14.
Why not a size 6 you say? Because I intend on continuing to enjoy my food, just more responsibly. And not let people make me feel like a size 14 is a size 26.
Thats my definition of control.
But I think people don't realize the physiological asspects of food addiction. If someone quit smoking cold turkey they would likely get headaches or other physical symptoms.
And you don't even have to smoke to live! You pick up the habit.
But everyone has to eat something, unless they are on a feeding tube. So it can be tricky for an addict.
There would be times when I would have a splitting headache all day and tried to go to college and then to work at night. I would take Advil every 4-6 hour and nothing would get better. Till I broke down and ate somthing naughty at the end of the day and 10 minutes later the headache was gone.
Thats what people need to understand. Having a headache or being nautious all day long and being expect to perform your daily tasks.
It took me a lot of taste testing diet foods, learning how to make them taste good, transfering my craving to harmless things like diet soda, learning how to make myself full on fewer calories, and other tricks to finally get the weight off.
A small child can barely tell their parent to take them to the restroom muchless say "mommy help me rearrange my physiology so I won't be dependent on the endorphines that eating gives me"
Give the parents a break!
