Quote From: ritehere It's not working because it's not getting the point across to him. He can still go out drinking whenever he wants, he's got someone at home taking care of his kids paying half of the bills. If you got a real separation, he would have to pay support for his kids while keeping a roof over his own head. He wouldn't get to see his kids unless he was sober and wouldn't be drinking up any of your money or being threatening or disrespectful to you.
Dr Phil says that alcoholism is a deal-breaker, cause for getting away until the alcoholic can prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that he has changed his ways. If he can't, kick him to the curb. Because he's ruining his life does not make it even close to OK to ruin yours and the kids' lives.
Get some legal advice, and information on assistance programs and support groups. Your kids only have one childhood, do you want them learning the lessons they are learning in your current household?
He is the one losing, not you. Think about how your kids feel watching him come home drunk. As they get older they will become bitter and disrespectful. Children learn from example. Is this the example you want them to learn.. New steps are always hard to take. But they are worth it. Try Alanon, it is for families of alcohlics, or your church. Just get him out of you life before you destroy their lives.
