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November 23, 2008, 3:18 pm PST
11/26 A Husband's Double Life
Quote From: beckynel08I met a man on MATCH and we totally hit it off.....but he just couldn't stop looking at the profiles, and I found out that he was still meeting women for coffee dates. Said I didn't want to see him if that was what he wanted, so he said he would go off MATCH. He did for a month, then back on. When I found out he was back on the same thing happend again. He says it's just innocent fun, but since we met that way I was very upset with it. He says coffee dates are harmless. It was a 1 1/2 year later that he finally got off MATCH and says he's not on another site or meeting others for coffee....He can't commit to me and says I'm rushing him....we are both in our late 40's. I told him I'm ready to get married, and settle down again. I've been widowed for 6 years, he's been divorced for over 15. Is he a player? Is he leading a double life by still checking out the women on the computer, and coffee dates? Should I expect him to ever want to settle down at his age since he's been single for this long? BN Forget everything about what he's done in the past, if he can't commit and says you're rushing him then he's not interested in settling down and getting married. I don't feel it's about what you should expect of him. I think it's more about what you want in your life. From what you've written about him, I strongly feel that he's not interested in settling down. That's not necessarily a bad thing. If it's how he feels, he has the right to feel that way. I say move on with your life and you might meet someone else who IS interested in settling down. Life is short.
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