Quote From: molbioHi!! again
Thank you for your input. Sometimes you just need some one else to tell you what you maybe already know deep insight. And you are right, I have to embrace my emotions, stop looking at them as a weakness and try to be in the present, just try to be in the moment. It’s just hard.
As far back as I can remember I always had to ignore my own emotions and always had to keep track and be on the look out with everyone else’s feelings. I had the feeling that if I didn’t the people that I loved would stop loving me and then they wouldn’t have anything to do with me or if I messed up that would be the finale blow that would push them over the edge.
So you are right I have to remember that everything is new and that it’s a journey. I have to allow my self to feel the way I do. That’s the difference between then and now.
Kristina
I am a pretty firm believer that we hold the keys to our happiness.
Sometimes it IS hard to stay in the present. But practice helps, no?
Just because you taught to ignore your emotions when you were younger, does not mean that you should continue doing that now.
Personally, I think ignoring your emotions can have some really serious side-effects and can be damaging to who you are.
I had to unlearn that for my own well-being too. If I twisted myself into a pretzel for someone ELSE then I wouldn't be ME. If I do that too much, I could lose who I am completely and that is unhealthy not only for me but for anyone who has a relationship with me. If someone else continually tries to turn ME into THEM, who is cheating whom? Besides if someone puts that many conditions on their love of ME, maybe I should be thinking about how I define love -- cause conditional love HURTS.
I LOVE being ME. There is no one who can be a better ME than ME anyway!
Remember.... you are perfect JUST as you are. Q
