Replies to '07/15 A Husband's Double Life'

Quote From: bedoss

I'm sorry Dr. Phil but I have to call you on this one, you say that people are born with their sexual preference in place on one show (which by the way you can't prove either way) but this guy would probably do it with wet sand, it sounds like to me that he has no preference at all.  Why don't you defend this guy like you do other people that live lifestyles that are risky?  Why does the amount of sexual partners matter?  Oral and anal sex is risky and not healthy no matter if it's straight or bi or monogamous or what ever , sure the number of sex partners does increase your chances for catching a disease but the type of sex needs to be addressed also.  This should be your focus if you really cared about the people you were dealing with, instead of giving one segment of society a pass on risky behavior just because it may be socially and financially more acceptable to do so.  To me if a fellow human being is doing anything that increases the chances that they may catch a disease or hurt themselves and they bring it to my attention, it would be actually uncaring of me to set back and not say how this behavior may increase the chances of killing them or causing themselves harm.  I bet I would get more flack on your show if I was a person that chose to live alone, because I lacked the love and touch of another human being (also very important).  But I could admittedly be in a monogamous relationship that engaged in risky sex acts and everything would be just fine because my risk is lower because I'm monogamous.  I know your a PhD. but come on, this is completely a health care issue, no different than I.V. drug use.  I'm not saying to rake these people over the coals, but I am saying that it is very inconsistent to give one segment of society a pass just because it may be more socially acceptable to do so.  I even heard the lady Dr. on your other show (the Dr's.) say that anal sex was fine as long as you use plenty of lubrication, I know were not supposed to judge each other but please, sex is no different than any other kind of drug.  Didn't you hear the guy say that he had to keep doing more because the other wasn't doing it for him any more, the answer is not more types of sex when what's working quits working, the answer is less of regular sex.  If having sex has become mundane with your partner, I think it's safe to say that your having too much sex, just back it off until it becomes special again.  I don't care if it's 5 times a day or three times a week or once a month, find a partner that has a sex drive that is close to your's and your life will be a lot more enjoyable to live. She defiantly missed the warning signs early on in this relationship, heck I had a girlfriend when I was in my early 20's and all we did was have sex, 5 times a day some 3 or 4 days a week and I loved every second of it.  But that's all we did and I wanted more out of life than just sex, it started effecting who I wanted to be in life and I had to choose between the two, thank God I did because as I grew older I learned that as I said before sex is a drug and if not handled with care can take over your life.  It's all about power and control! The answer is, do we have the power to control ourselves?