Replies to '06/06 "I'm Gay, OK?"'

MommaJenna;  

To answer your question about me being happy being a heterosexual at some time in my life. The answer is no. Not one single day was I happy being married to a man. I have always been happy being a mother and a grandmother.  

I came out at the age of 46 to myself and then to others at 47 years old. I was attracted to women at a very young age but I wanted to have children and back then being married to a man was the only way to have kids. I did not want to come out till my children were adults because I could not let their father take them away from me.  

This happens so much. You folks, who are heterosexual have no idea how many gay people have sacrificed being true to themselves; living empty miserable lives by marrying someone they didn't love or feel attracted to. Then you have two adults in an empty and sad marriage. You have no idea how many gay people have had their children taken from them when it became known they were gay. Thousands and thousands of gay parents have lost their kids only because they are gay. What about the kids? Kids could care less if their parents are gay. Kids want their parent's love. 

Thankfully things have changed. I know many homosexual couples who have families now thanks to modern fertility techniques and adoption. If they had had these techniques when I was younger; I would have chosen one of these ways to have children. Oh if I could only go back 35 years ago, take my partner with me; we would have had beautiful & very happy children together. I am not saying my kids are not happy. But they would have been much more happier and stable with two loving partents; even if they had two mommies. That is my only regret in my life. 

I get furious when I hear people saying gay people do not make good parents. I have even heard our president refer to this; saying marriage and children should be with a man and a woman only. I am hear to tell you he and others who feel this way are wrong.