Quote From: cindy1003I just read your post and although you wrote it back in July -- I can identify with it so much! My husband left me the 4th of August. In the past two half months I have seen areas that I probably contributed to our relationship issues -- but I can confidently say that he has alwasy know I loved him. He also told me that he hasn't loved me for several years -- all we have in common is the children and my faith life. He has however, been decent in sharing with some of the running with the kids (the go to catholic school and have no buses) and giving me money to cover 1/2 tuition, child maintenance and half the cc bills (financially even with both working it has always been week to week). Our children are 15 & 12 1/2. I too do not want to be divorced or a single parent. I didn't choose that for myself and I should be allowed a say. We see each other frequently as his family as become my family (I have none of my own living here) and everything is civil.. I like you -- am keeping the doors open and prayng for a miracle!
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I ready your post and wow. My husband moved out in July and is saying some of the same stuff. He told he that he hasnt loved me in several years ( We have been together for 20 married for 18) he also said that all I am to him is the mother of his children.mine are 13 and 10. He too is helping financially, especailly since i have stayed home with the kids and worked part time since they have been in school. I too know we had problems, both of us, but i think we was both unwilling to fight about them, things had seem to be going good for so long. I too can say he has always known and still knows I love him and that i am willing to try to fix this. I think that is one reason he doesnt want to talk. right now he wants what he wants and only what he wants. We have never been seperated in 18 years and it is so hard to believe that the first time will lead to divorce. I too am very close to his family and see him often. I live in our home next door to his parents, and he is there every weekend and any time he takes a notion to be. He has not been willing to dicuss anything about our relationship since he left. except the part about not loving me. I have been emailing with some family members who keep sending me scripture and it helps me hold on. I think one problem with the men maybe they dont even love themselves right now, so how can they love us. My husband is 38, and so many people keep saying...oh mid life crisis. I really know the Lord told me this would all be okay when it started, I am just wondering now if i didnt know what he meant by that. I too am keeping the door open and praying for a miracle, they do still happen. I found your post, that was mine today.. I was looking for stuff on depression or midlife hoping to find that someone else had felt the way he does and the Lord sent me your post. OUt of everywhere on the internet i could have went here I am. Thanks for posting.
