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October 24, 2005, 4:59 pm PDT
PEOPLE, not just men, can be clueless
Quote From: irishmom I had a similar thing happen to me. One time I told my husband that my stomach hurt, and he said "which one?" When I was offended, he swears he didn't mean it the way it sounded. How else can it be interpretted? Also, right before we got married I was talking about going to the gym to lose weight. My husband is quite a bit older than I, and when I said this, his reply was "when you go to the gym and loose all that weight and become attractive, are you going to leave me for a younger man?" To me, that implied that he didn't think I was attractive!! He swears that not only did he not mean that to sound the way it did, but that he meant it as a compliment!!! Boy would I like to live in the mind of a guy for just one day! (or would I??) Men get a bad rap. They often don't deserve it. As Dr. Phil always says, we teach people how to treat us. I have been married for 16+ years. Over those years I have gained 110 lbs. My husband has NEVER told me anything about my looks to hurt my feelings. He still calls me beautiful, although I know he worries about my health. TRUE LOVE doesn't hurt. When you truly love your spouse, you don't want to hurt him or her. You want to protect and support him/her. Many people need to understand that what they have is NOT a loving relationship. However, the couple on the show truly love eachother, but they need to do their name-calling in private so their children don't start misbehaving in public! Dr. Phil was right on the money with that couple!
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