Quote From: cannotwaitAll my life I have been around witty humour.......really funny things including name calling but totally in a fun way....I would never name call to hurt someone's feelings cause it's not nice but it's all in the way I deliver it. My husband of 8 years joins in now too. If I call him a "big bum" or "a waste of time", it's the way I say it that makes him never take offence to it. He'll call me fun names too and they are not offensive. My personality is very outgoing and I have a great sense of humour and I am self employed. Even my past jobs even in management, the staff would always say that the way I name call, clearly I mean no offence to it. If it ever was offensive I would stop right away but I believe I get away with it because the people know me and know it's not at all serious. Also, I am not an obnoxious funny girl, I am a witty humor girl. I know the difference and if someone is obnoxious and think they're funny, well that's not right. However, I am interested in what Dr. Phil has to say about it because it is different. I repeat, I would not do it if someone took offence to it. I had some ladies once work with me at a job and they said they weren't sure how they would like working with me because I'm outgoing and after less than a week they said that they love the way I lead, because even though I have odd pet names, everyone is treated so equally and fairly. And they ended up joining in. And again, it's not ALL the time and it's all in fun.
I must have a different concept of "wittty" humor. "Wit", as I have always understood it, requires intelligence, keen observation, and insight, with the ability to think quickly. Wit does not involve name calling, no matter how the less- than- flattering name is "delivered". Name calling is too obvious a tactic to be classified as wit, although many people consider it funny. (Many people, especially boys between ages of about nine to thirty, also consider flatulence and other body functions to be extremely funny .) Making a "joke" at someone else's expense (rather than your own) is cheap and immature. Your name calling is meant as fun, and you sure don't sound mean-spirited. However, don't be too sure that you have never hurt, embarrassed, or offended anyone. There are those who just "laugh along" in an attempt to avoid further embarrassment, rather than admit to being offended. It's wonderful to be so outgoing and friendly, but be sensitive enough to pick up the non-verbal clues that reveal others' authentic feelings (to borrow a word from Dr. Phil). As for those "funny" husbands who throw out insults in the guise of "humor" - the wife (or other target) of the "jokes" should become deaf until he gets it. Don't react at all, except with a blank stare. Let his joke "bomb".
