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October 23, 2005, 4:32 pm PDT
 Quote From: cinnamon29 Anyone who would hold the expectation of health care needs as unreasonable needs a wake-up call. I observed my aunt berate my uncle when he had a stroke. "Because fo you we won't be able to take a vacation to Florida!" GROW UP. The constant negative messages did nothing to facilitate my uncle's efforts at recovery. If the shoe were on the other foot, would you want your spouse to be supportive of you or whining and moaning about elements beyond control. We are all influenced by the environment in which we live; therefore our recovery will be faster if the focus is on the solution NOT A PART OF THE PROBLEM. Anyone who is that callous and selfish needs to be told to be thankful this person is still a part of their lives and work toward a mutually agreeable solution, not point fingers in hte blaming game. I personally have learned who my true friends were when I was paralyzed twenty-five years ago due to a mistake by a doctor. It was an eye opening experience. As a young woman in her early thirties, I knew immediately who stood by me and those who did not want ot be bothered by someone unable to walk. This lady should be ashamed of herself. Didn't she say the wedding vows, that include "in sickness & health". If so she sure isn't carrying them out now. I can't imagine her resenting her husband because of his illness. She has got to be ONE of the most selfish people in the world. Does she realize that she is probably hindering her husbands healing & reccovery with her selfish & greedy attitude.
I have a chronic illness which will only get progessively worse. When I found this out last year I told my "so called best friend" who showed me NO EMPATHY. Her attitude was "I don't want to be so close to you anymore, because I have dealt with enough of other epoples illnesses & deaths. I was only partially surprised since after I passed out a family event of hers she told me what an embarrment I was to her. Like the previous writer I have found out who my TRUE friends are. I know now who my friends are & who won't be there for me in the future. This goves me more time & energy to spend with & on my real friends.
I hope this husband recognizes his wifes problem & makes changes in his life for his own good. I can't imagine what else this wife will use to find fault with him. |
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