Quote From: squeaker13"What difference does it make really what gender you are? I mean sexual
preference sure, people like what they like I guess. I am a woman who
is attracted to men, It would not occur to me to even think of being
with a woman, so I suppose that if a man felt the same way for some
reason, then it would be hard to change.... but gender for the sake of
gender only... like wanting to be the opposite sex just because you
feel like a man or a woman? What is the point of that? For example why
would a man change his gender to female, and then be a lesbian? Why
would he bother to change his gender... and apart from sexual
preference, what difference does it make if you are male or female?
WEll other than the difference in economic opportunities. It seems to
me a man getting a sex change cuts his paycheck in half, and volunteers
to recieve condesending attitudes, and descrimination... even if he
successfully convinced people he was a real woman. Why would anyone
want to be a woman if they were not born one"
I couldn't even force myself to finish reading your post after this last "question". I understand if you have some confusion, its understandable. But to say that you KNOW transgendered people, and to not have any idea how CHANGING YOUR SEX could make a dfference inhow they FEEL?
My boyfriend is a woman with GID, and I refer to him ONLY as a male. I am not a lesbian, I have never been attracted to a woman, not that I feel there would be anything wrong with this if i WAS.
He will be havinng the surgery to become a man, and I support him 110%. His family has a hard time accepting this though. But try to put yourself in the shoes of a transgendered person. Transgendered people, who feel and relate to the opposite sex as being THEIR sex, are usually DISGUTED with their genitals. They don
't feel like they belong there. Now imagine, you are a woman, and INSIDE, you are a man. Simple things to us, like shopping for clothes, Doctors appointments, or USING A PUBLIC WASHROOM... can you imagine how much harder those things BECOME?
So for these men and women who are placed in the wrong bodies at birth, and YES i believe that it IS possible for this to happen, a sex change will make ALL the difference in the world. YOu said yourself, that you are attracted to who you are attracted to. So My b/f is attracted to women.... that can't be changed. But he doesn't and has NEVER felt complete in the body he has been given. So what?... to you, the answer would be "just be a lesbian?" Sometimes things aren;t that simple. People are who they are. Why would it be so bad for someone to have a sex change to feel WHOLE and be happy with their lives, probably for the first TIME in thier lives... but it is acceptable for people to go around getting breast implants and nose jobs and plastic surgeries just to feel a BIT better about themselves?
My son at 24 yrs old broke the news to me his mother. That he wants to be a girl. I never would of believed it. He grew up what I thought a typical boy. My husband and I both never thought in a million years that this could happen. I would like to talk to other mothers about our grieving process and how life can go on. Stacy is a wonderful, smart person. She was the same being a boy and things haven't changed now that she is a woman. She transition at work and is one of the bravest people I know. She will be turning 30 this April. This has been quite a ride for all of us. Things happen for whatever reasons. My child is transgender and I love her that will never change.
