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October 24, 2005, 8:37 am PDT
I respectfully disagree
Quote From: celmom
I must have a different concept of "wittty" humor. "Wit", as I have always understood it, requires intelligence, keen observation, and insight, with the ability to think quickly. Wit does not involve name calling, no matter how the less- than- flattering name is "delivered". Name calling is too obvious a tactic to be classified as wit, although many people consider it funny. (Many people, especially boys between ages of about nine to thirty, also consider flatulence and other body functions to be extremely funny .) Making a "joke" at someone else's expense (rather than your own) is cheap and immature. Your name calling is meant as fun, and you sure don't sound mean-spirited. However, don't be too sure that you have never hurt, embarrassed, or offended anyone. There are those who just "laugh along" in an attempt to avoid further embarrassment, rather than admit to being offended. It's wonderful to be so outgoing and friendly, but be sensitive enough to pick up the non-verbal clues that reveal others' authentic feelings (to borrow a word from Dr. Phil). As for those "funny" husbands who throw out insults in the guise of "humor" - the wife (or other target) of the "jokes" should become deaf until he gets it. Don't react at all, except with a blank stare. Let his joke "bomb". I am very aware that the way you deliver a message is often the key to how it's received....if you tell someone to "go jump in a lake" they probably won't if they received the message light heartedly. If you're stern and aggressive and tell them to "jump in a lake" they may turn around and think you're serious and don't want them around so the problem is how the person is receiving the message and comment. If someone calls me a fat ass and I'm not fat, why think twice about it. It becomes almost a personal security about one self I think if that person becomes devastated over a comment like that. But again I truly believe that the way the person delivers it determines if they are serious or joking. How the person receives it has to do with that person. I don't play with people like that if they have a drier sense of humour or are down on themselves because I do consider the type of person that I'm talking to first.
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