Quote From: crazy13So i am not married but i have been living with my boyfriend for the past year and a half and things are great i think but he seems to have trouble with telling me about the bills if one comes in its like he hides it or says it hasn't come yet.
So when i find it stuffed away he acts like he didn't know it was there whats up with that?
so anyway my real question is how do i talk to him about this without making him feel inadequate.
I have tried talking to him but we get no where except in a screaming match both trying to defend our selves.
I do plan on being with him and we do plan on getting married but how are we going to make it if he cant even talk about money or be truthful about it???????????
please i need some advice.
I married a financial disaster--you two need REAL CONVERSATIONS about money before you tie the knot!! My husband is the perfect man, except for money. When we married I took on most of his credit card debt, helped him get a car, etc.
Over the years we've had to address his compulsive spending and the idea of PAYING BILLS ON TIME, which was something he finally learned to do. This was all done on my very meager salary as a piano teacher, but now we are in huge debt because of a failed real estate project!
If I could do it all over again, of course I would marry him, but I'd have some long, calm talks about money first. Make sure he can balance a checkbook before you tie yourself to him, please! It's not worth screaming about--I hope you are able to get him to come around. My best wishes.
