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October 24, 2005, 6:01 am PDT
it's her loss
Quote From: joaniebabeIv been with my partner for 7 years,just resently we have been having problems. His mother doesnt have anything to do with our three year old daughter she say is because our relationship is so rocky and she is worryed i will leave and take our daughter and she wont be able to see her ive told her its not the case and i would never stop her from seeing her granddaughter but she keeps pushing her away and has more to fo with my partners sisters child than she does her first grandchild and this is really upseting me and i dont know what to do. Ive asked my partner to talk to his mother about it but he just doesnt seem to care. Has anyone got any suggestions on how i can get my mother inlaw to have more to with my daughter? Your mil is just making excuses for her "own" behavior by not having anything to do with her grandchild. You cant force her to see her but I would leave the door open for when she gets ready. I know exactly how you feel. My mil has had nothing to do with her grandchildren that we have and it has been nearly 2 years since she even had a visit with them and we live walking distance away. No b-days, no phone calls no nothing. She has everything to do with my husbands first child by a ex girlfriend and her excuse to us is "well, your kids have their parents together and he dont". "I feel sorry for him" AND " we go directly by a schedule and we dont have time to come see them". BUT they see the other child every other weekend and he is in another county. Dont allow any excuses from her, she is being selfish in her own way and it is her loss not yours or your childs. With the way my mil acts towards our kids, we prefer her to stay out of the picture mainly because she cant treat them fair and she shows no feelings towards our kids. It is a shame they have to act like that and be that way towards a child.
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