Quote From: errodedoThis may be a topic for another show but I have to submit my thoughts.
I am a married mother of two and I have no sympathy for women that chose to have children out of wedlock and force fatherhood on a man. I am not talking about teenagers. I am referring to mature, grown professional women. As women, we have the reponsibility to take care and protect our bodies. If you were able to get pregnant, it was because you did not protect yourself or ask your partner to protect his self against getting you pregnant . Then in turn, you force the man to be a father to a child that he didn't ask you for in the first place. Yes,"it takes two to tango" but ultimately it is the woman body that will carry the child. As a woman, you'll be the one walking around with a big belly, unmarried, having to stop school or work while you have the baby, etc. So yes, it is your reponsibility more than his to protect yourslef from becoming pregnant by someone that sometimes iyou barely know. As far as I am concern, women are as fault as men for bringing these kids into the world. Its easy to blame the man, but what about these women, not teenagers, kwow that if you have sex without any type of contraceptive or protection there is a high possibility that you will get pregnant. They still chose to do it, so they should be held also accountable for their act.
This society needs to stop blaming the man and put some responsibility on the woman, and stop treating them like victims of their own choice.
I am a divorced mother. I recieve child support. My ex moved away from us and I provide everything for our child. When our son visits his dad, I send everything he needs with him.
My boyfriend has 2 children with his ex wife. He has them about 40% of the time. He wants more but because his ex showed "they can't get along" he can't. She therefore recieved full custody. She is impossible to deal with and will never get along with him, because if she does, her reason for her having full custody of the children will be lost.
He pays child support, 60% of day care, and provides everything his ex does except for school supplies, winter jackets and boots. As a result, she now brings home more money than he does. I constantly hear from their children, why don't you have onstar, a cell phone,a gym membership, go on vacation? etc. She went to Jamaica last year and just informed us, via answering machine, that she is taking the children to the Doninican for a holiday. We cannot afford this. My boyfriend was just laid off from his job of 20 years and I am attending college as a result of layoffs...we are struggling to make ends meet. I am using my credit card to buy groceries for goodness sakes. Why is it just automatic that the women gets the kids and the money. Yes some need it. Men take off, leave them with bills and everything. But this case...her quality of life has risen since their divorce and is better than his! Yes better than ours. How is this fair?
Just because you are a women, should not entitle you to more or full custody and child support!
