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branrw21
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October 24, 2005, 8:16 am PDT

10/26 More Sex With Kim Cattrall!

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Sex between a husband and wife is an expression of love - a celebration.  In this light - why would one partner pressure the other to do things that they are uncomfortable with?  Shouldn't sex be a way of expressing love to his/her spouse?  I think America is 'over sexed' - placing way too much emphasis on sex - how often - where - techniques.   It's all over the tabloids and at the check out counter in the super market.  There are multiple books on how to enjoy it - and yet we are a sexally frustrated society - with a continual increase of divorces.   Why not just love your mate?  Why not do what is comfortable and enjoyable for your spouse?  --------unless, of course, there is a genuine problem - like a spouse who was abused in some way that makes them closed off or dysfuncional --- or a medical problem......     Just some thoughts. 
I don't think it's really about pressure, I think it's about the "why" they are uncomfortable. There can be many reasons. If you don't figure out the "why", then you won't be able to resolve the issue at hand. One reason why someone may be uncomfortable with certain sexual acts, may be because they aren't very comfortable in their own sexuality. I think it's about the "issue" and not so much the "topic". IMO, I don't understand how someone doesn't like oral sex, other than the fact that they aren't very comfortable in their sexuality. They don't like to explore sexually. I think usually that's the case. In order to really enjoy sex, you need to be very sexually confident and comfortable in your own skin.
 
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ninjabride
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October 26, 2005, 12:27 pm PDT

It IS an expression of love, but can be more

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Sex between a husband and wife is an expression of love - a celebration.  In this light - why would one partner pressure the other to do things that they are uncomfortable with?  Shouldn't sex be a way of expressing love to his/her spouse?  I think America is 'over sexed' - placing way too much emphasis on sex - how often - where - techniques.   It's all over the tabloids and at the check out counter in the super market.  There are multiple books on how to enjoy it - and yet we are a sexally frustrated society - with a continual increase of divorces.   Why not just love your mate?  Why not do what is comfortable and enjoyable for your spouse?  --------unless, of course, there is a genuine problem - like a spouse who was abused in some way that makes them closed off or dysfuncional --- or a medical problem......     Just some thoughts. 
I agree with you. . .to a point.  Sex is definitely an expression of love and a celebration of the relationship.  It's also an AMAZING stress reliever.  Best ending available to a crappy day.  It also gets rid of headaches.  But, here's where we part ways:  America is not oversexed.  If anything, as a whole, the USA needs to get itself some and chill out.  We are WAY too uptight when it comes to sexual matters, especially when comparing us to other countries.  Relax out there, people. . . .
 
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