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October 24, 2005, 6:30 am PDT

Hi KMS - from an English guy in Denmark.

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I'm in a wonderful relationship with a man who has had very little sexual experience prior to our getting together.  One thing he has never done is perform oral sex on a woman.  We talked about it briefly when we first got together and he's said that he wants to do it sometime but he's very nervous about it.  I've let it go in order to let him get comfortable with me and we've managed to do that.  So my question is how do I try to ease him into it?  How do I attempt to make him comfortable with it?  I'm usually the less experienced person in the few relationships I've been in, so I have very little experience with taking the lead and "teaching" someone.  Thanks! 

  

KMS 

Having read your letter, my mind wondered to "that special time" in my life. We all go through it, somehow, some way. 

  

In my case, I remember not wanting to "appear stupid" or "appear immature" - so, it was best not to even go there (No pun intended)   *smiling* 

  

I would suggest that, you in your wisdom, don´t pick a deadline, but choose the atmosphere. Through out the day ...... let him think Christmas is early this year. 

  

You could for example, use massage where he is on the floor, and you, at some point, are kneeling above him massaging his chest, his face, stroking his lips, nibbling his neck/ears - bearing in mind to move away [not to be obvious], now and again and do your thing with him, a little at a time. 

  

I don´t think I need to elaborate more. Do I? I bet you it works............       Believe me, I know!!  

 


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