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August 1, 2005, 8:06 am PDT
Moving on
Quote From: rsthoughtsThat his offer is unacceptable. He apparently doesn't understand that once you are a parent you are always a parent whether the child lives with you or not. Sometimes kids come home after they have "left the nest". It's not like your children are a hobby that's on the side that you can just put aside whenever you want. I personally find his request outrageous. If he had such an issue with your children, he should have never started dating you.
Many relationships today come as "package" deals. I myself have 2 kids and my b/f has 1. Your children are a part of you and always will be. If this man can't handle that, I would suggest he move on and find someone without children.
A question you may ask yourself is "After the kids move out and I marry this man and something should happen where one of my children need to move home....will I have to tell them that they no longer can come to the place they have always known as home?"
I wish you the best. Keep in touch. Hi there.
Thank you for responding to my message. We talked again today and I asked the question about what would happen if something happened and one of my children needed to "come home". He said that he didn't have an issue with that - he couldn't explain why it would be different.
I ended the relationship today for all the reasons you mentioned in your reply. I feel incredibly sad but also relieved that everything is out in the open and the inner struggles of the last few months are over.
Right, I guess it's over to the "getting over a breakup" board to see what treasures I can find there to guide me through this :-)
Once again Thank-You....your reply was the bit of morale booster I needed and I appreciate you taking the time to answer me.
Cheers!
Merum
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