Replies to 'Betrayal'

 You have a lot of things to think about, sounds like. For instance, if you and this guy break up, how will that leave you feeling? Will you regret that you chose him over her? Because ultimately that is what you are doing. I am not saying that you should have to do that, but that is what your friend (or ex-friend) is forcing you to do. And you have to consider, we all get over things at different rates. Sounds as though your friend isn't really over that relationship. You have to think to yourself, if I had dated someone for a substantial amount of time and was not over it, would I be okay with my close friend getting involved with him?  I mean, you can say it has been 3 years, but that doesn't mean anything when it comes to the healing/maturing process of an individual. She may never fully be okay with you dating this guy.  What is more important to you? Trying out this relationshiop with this guy and hoping it will be a good one, while losing a very dear friend?  It doesn't matter if she is being ridiculous, it is how she feels. Are her feelings more important to you and her friendship more important to you than this guy?  Hard call.