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Quote From: kpyukon

My husband and I have only been married 5 months and together for 18 months.  He has 2 girls ages 7 and 10 and I have 2 boys ages 12 and 15.  His ex hates that since we are married she cannot do anything about the visitation rights and the girls can spend the night with us.  She has gone so far as to tell the girls that the boys will molest them at night while they're sleeping.  The girls have seen otherwise and now love to be around the boys, like shadows.  But the ex is always doing something new to the extreme and making the girls afraid to do or say anything at our home.  One of the girls most favorite things to do at our house is ride their bikes in with other kids in the neighborhood.  Most recently, this past weekend the girls let is slip that they get in big trouble by their mom if they ride their bikes with the boys around our neighborhood.  Not only do they get in "big" trouble but they also get grounded.  They were specifically told by their mom not to tell their dad of this or they will be in even more trouble.  She also bribes them that if they don't ride their bikes all weekend they will get a "surprise".  The 10-year-old was horrified that her little sister has let this slip to me and begged me not to tell her dad.  She was crying and scared her mom would find out that she told.  No matter what I said they would not ride their bikes all weekend (not until they turn 12 and their mom says they can).  My husbands ex also hides when I go to events and uses her daughters as messengers if I am anywhere in sight.  The oldest girl is overweight for her age and neither get to play with other children.  What mother would keep her children from doing normal healthy activities and bribe them not to say anything???   They are scared!  What can I do????