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Quote From: victorlynn

The children of abusive marriages are quite commonly lost in the fray.  While it is EXTREMELY important for women to get out and get themselves and children to a safe place, they should not forget that their children saw and heard the abuse (and quite often were abused themselves).  It is important for the children to receive mental health care as quickly as possible after getting to a safe place.  As an adult woman who, as a child, lived in an abusive home, I know what it is like when people do not let you express your anger, shame, and grief at having lived in such an environment.  It is also very important that the mother not deny that the abuse occurred.  My step-father, apparently, stopped physically hurting my mother and they are still together.  But she denies the abuse and minimizes the name calling.  This only re-victimizes the child! Remember that children are a part of the abusive relationship as well and need healing too.