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Dr. Phil, 

     My name is Steve and I am just blown away by the comments made by the lady who was upset about the bills she and her husband had have to pay due to his transplant. I believe that if you aren't willing to do whatever it takes to keep the person you love with you, healthy and happy, you just don't know what the word "love" means. 

     This last March I lost my soul mate. His name was Tony and I would have died for him. Six months after we met he was diagnosed with A.I.D.S. and at that time I begged him to do whatever it took to give it to me so we would die together. Well, he loved me too much to do that, so I am still here...healthy. 

     We owned and antique store together and within a year we had to close it and liquidate the assets to pay bills. Within another year he was so sick that he couldn't take care of himself so I worked 40 hours a week at my job and and was with him every night, all night, and every weekend, all weekend, to care for him. This went on for nearly 10 years with no break of any sort...no vacations...no days off. 

     I came home one day to find Tony being taken away by a group from a nursing home. I was horrified to think that I wasn't doing a good enough job and became quite hysterical. Tony called my into the van and told me that he was doing this for me...he wanted me to be able to have a day off and some time to myself. It took me 3 hours to stop blubbering like and idiot and realize that he would get better care there by the professionals though I had to teach them allot about his care. He have 2 catheters,  a feeding tube and a lidacane drip for the pain, plus he was very atrophied in his left hand and foot due to Toxoplasmosis Encephalitis which hit him somewhat like a stroke. 

     I guess I have gone on way too long, but just wanted to let you know that we lost our business, our home (moved into an old mobile home where I still live) our S.U.V. was repossessed and I never once thought of complaining about taking care of him...NEVER CROSSED MY MIND! 

     You know what I do feel bad about?  I lost my soul mate! And now I am alone with no regrets of what I did when he got sick. 

Steve 

Dr. Phil, 

     My name is Steve and I am just blown away by the comments made by the lady who was upset about the bills she and her husband had have to pay due to his transplant. I believe that if you aren't willing to do whatever it takes to keep the person you love with you, healthy and happy, you just don't know what the word "love" means. 

     This last March I lost my soul mate. His name was Tony and I would have died for him. Six months after we met he was diagnosed with A.I.D.S. and at that time I begged him to do whatever it took to give it to me so we would die together. Well, he loved me too much to do that, so I am still here...healthy. 

     We owned and antique store together and within a year we had to close it and liquidate the assets to pay bills. Within another year he was so sick that he couldn't take care of himself so I worked 40 hours a week at my job and and was with him every night, all night, and every weekend, all weekend, to care for him. This went on for nearly 10 years with no break of any sort...no vacations...no days off. 

     I came home one day to find Tony being taken away by a group from a nursing home. I was horrified to think that I wasn't doing a good enough job and became quite hysterical. Tony called my into the van and told me that he was doing this for me...he wanted me to be able to have a day off and some time to myself. It took me 3 hours to stop blubbering like and idiot and realize that he would get better care there by the professionals though I had to teach them allot about his care. He have 2 catheters,  a feeding tube and a lidacane drip for the pain, plus he was very atrophied in his left hand and foot due to Toxoplasmosis Encephalitis which hit him somewhat like a stroke. 

     I guess I have gone on way too long, but just wanted to let you know that we lost our business, our home (moved into an old mobile home where I still live) our S.U.V. was repossessed and I never once thought of complaining about taking care of him...NEVER CROSSED MY MIND! 

     You know what I do feel bad about?  I lost my soul mate! And now I am alone with no regrets of what I did when he got sick. 

Steve