Replies to 'Teens and Sex'

Quote From: jellofaceman

Wow there.  Something is terribly wrong.  This kind of behavior cannot be tolerated, the very first thing that I would do if I were a parent is not only strip the child of his TV, but of his computer, game systems, and all other forms of entertainment except for the educational kind.  Make sure that they still do have something to do that is fun, but that encourages values rather than is just entertaining.   Try sitting down a couple of times a week to play a family board game or something....let him choose the game so that it will be entertaining for both you, your family, and him.  If he says that he does not feel like doing it then encourage him to do something else that  promotes morals....just spending more time than usual with him....maybe going to a theme park with the family or a town fair.  A physician is not always the answer....you should try to change the environment around the person before trying to get a "quick fix".  Try having him read the book Seven Habits For Highly Effective Teens- or play a radio station that has people that give advice out to others on while he is around.

 After loosing trust in him he will have to gain it back slowly with you.  You should clean out his room of everything so as there is no spot where he can hide things, when he shows you that he has made progress and is changing his ways then you slowly give him back the things that he enjoys....but you make things like the TV and Computer last.....when he does get things back, just to make sure he does not do anything to get back into his bad habits make sure that they have strict filters on them so that inappropriate  things cannot be accessed.

To start out I would do what I said above.....if your child says he hates you, you should reply to him that what you have done is not permanent and that if he changes his ways you will let him have things back.  Let him know that because he cannot help himself you have chosen to help him....whether he wants the help or not...as he is  hurting not only himself-but the people around him as well. 

Another thing, behavior like this-if not properly tackled could pose serious problems in the future.  You could see your child become something that no parent in their right mind would want to see their own become.  Like I said...the problem should not be handled by taking him to the doctor or something...you should treat the problem at home by changing the environment around him, and changing the way you treat him.  Respect of others and trust should be a given....but in this case he will have to earn it and when he gives it to the people around him....he will get it back.