Quote From: jettavI understand your concern and all and I think you are ina bad situation but on the other hand, it isn't the teachers job to clean up puke all day long, maybe, there is a way that you can gt her to the field trips maybe a family frined, her father, relative, whatever, and do you go to the school parties and all, I think it is really a no win situation. My daughter used to pull her hair out when she was overwhelmed or a lot of changes were happening and it was a very stresssful time for all of us, I did take her to the doctor and all and this is when we realized that she probably had a hair pulling disorder (and yes there is a name for it) but positive reinforcement was all that could be done with it, we always talk to her ahead of time when ever there was something different happening then the original plan, we always talk up to the event and the day of, we just do the activity, we talk about what stresses her out and what we can do to make her feel at ease, communication does wonders, and though I realize this is a little different Maybe in your case, maybe if you don't talk much about the activity comeing up, she won't get as excited about it, maybe by not talking about it will help, I don't know, I wish I had more advice for you, just hang in there and I am sure she will outgrow it , Maybe talk to the staff as well and have it all written out for them to prepare them for this which I know that you have probably done many times, just stay consistent, communicate with all involved and stay calmed.
The thing is she doesn't puke all day or even everyday. Yesterday was the first time of this school year, and now that the school has made a big deal of it, she is going to stress over it even more now. I have learned to tell her before hand what the activity is, but in cases like this one it was a totally new experience. She was up all night thinking about her upcoming field trip.
For her positive reinforcement doesn't always work, but I have taken the advice of her counsler and it has worked to a great extent. She used to puke almost every morning before school. Now she doesn't. Yesterday was the first time she has puked ( with anxiety ) in over 2 monthes. Her counsler says at the moment is up in the air if she will out grow it, and if not there is things they can do once she is older, and can understand things a little better. I just don't want her to be able to enjoy all the fun things school does have to offer, and I fear that now that she knows how they will react that she is more likely to do it more often, and possibly sent home.
The hardest thing you mentioned is staying calmed. Having people look at you like your a horrible mother over something they don't understand is nerve racking at times. Currently I am working on getting the documentation from her counsler on her disorder. However I don't feel the whole school has the right to know.
