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October 25, 2005, 8:09 pm PDT
Similar problem
Quote From: renobabyDear Julie,
I too have the same troubles.....I found your story remarkable, it sounded just like me!!! My kids are 16 and 18, so I've been doing this along time...I do applaud you for leaving...I always stayed because I thought it was better, having come from a broken home myself....but I don't see that it was. My kids hate their father and avoid him at every turn. And it's all my fault according to my husband...I don't ever see it his way...he's a A type personality, perfection always...I'm further down the alphbet somewhere....P probably. I too just want to see my kids happy, I think they're great kids..this is a tough time in both their lives he only makes things worse. My greatest fear is that I'll lose them because of him!
Stay strong and I know the Doc will help us all, I'll be glued!
Hi, I too will be looking forward to this show. I am a little different, my fiancee & I met 10yrs ago when my children were 10 & 13. My kids have moved out & I now have 2 more - 5yrs&1yrs!!! & a new grandson!!!! Anyways, my son & my fiancee still don't speak. My son says they just don't have anything to say to each other - he comes for dinner & I notice a difference in my fiancee - he gets distant & moody! Basically, he was very tough on my kids - chores & other things were commanded & not asked of. My son ended up swearing & stuff!! & when I was away he moved out 2wks before graduation! I have told my fiancee how this makes me feel how he doesn't speak to my son & he says he just doesn't care to associate with him!!!! I am offended by this - he makes derrogatory comments to me & says he's just joking & I am sensitive!! I do speak to him about this & he apologizes but basically I am frustrated at times but hten we do have some great times together as well! I would hate to leave & be a single mom again & I don't feel that's an option - my daughter once said to me if I left now she would be pissed off because I should have left when they were at home! I too don't want to feel like a victim - I know I have middle child syndrome - I like everyone to get along & I tend to put my needs on the back burner and put everyone above me. I am working on that. Again good luck to any other couples out there & any advice about my children's relationship with their step-dad? My son says not to worry but I really notice it - he says at least they aren't fighting!!! Thanks.
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