Quote From: ricschicSomething's missing from this story. I want to know about Jerry...mostly how in the world he was able to post bail on a $200,000 bond? We've heard nothing from his family. There's another story here, and I for one would like to hear it. Not that it matters, of course...Caitlin's gone and nothing will bring her back. My heart breaks at the blame tossed around in some of the posts. Every time something happens blame starts being tossed at the mother. Sometime's it's justified, sometimes not. I still say you don't know what you'd do in any given situation unless you've actually lived it. You just THINK you know. If those tossing around blame really want to understand how this is possible, go to your nearest battered woman's shelter. Talk to the women there, you'll see a common denominator. These men can be very charming, deceptive. They are able to convince you of almost anything, perhaps that's why Donna would reunite after a breakup. My niece was shot by her b/f when she attempted to leave him. She lived, thank you God. But she bears scars to this day. Still has bullets in her back. This was a boy who appeared to be every mom's dream come true for her daughter....good looking, faithful church goer, educated, excellent job, appeared to be a wonderful, caring and supportive human being. He was all of those things until my niece left him. Then he shot her through a plate glass window as she was bent over waxing the coffee table. So...you just never know. It does no good to blame anyone. Stuff happens. I hope that Donna isn't reading any of these insensitive, cruel posts that would lay the blame on her. It's almost akin to blaming Caitlin for being killed. Maybe she didn't do things the way someone else thinks that she should have. I'd advise to climb down off of the self-righteous, hypocritical high horse you've placed yourself on before you fall off....it's a long way down.......
I agree that some info is missing from the story. It is such a tragic situation; however; my question is how well did this mom know the b/f? Why would she bring such a man into the lives of her girls.
My sister is in the same situation but I thank God that her son is grown and does not live with his mom. But I do know he could kill her son if he wanted to. She left her husband about 3 months ago; he held a gun to her head and kept her from her family and ended up shooting himself, but he did not die and guess what......SHE IS LIVING WITH HIM AGAIN. I feel sure that my sister will die by his hands and SHE KNOWS IT HERSELF AND TOLD ME SO! While she was away from him, she would cry and say she did not know how she let someone so mean and violent in our family.
I am very angry at her and will never speak to her again......as a matter of fact I couldn't if I wanted to because I am not allowed to call over to her house.
While they were fighting he told her " if your sister knew I held a gun to your mf head everytime she called; I bet she would quit calling". Of course, he is right.
My sister got out of the situation for about 3 months and "THE DEVIL" as I call him did not bother her at all.....I don't think she could stand it and went right back to him.
I cannot change this for her and she must do some serious soul searching to see why she CHOOSES to live like this.
I am not in any way blaming Donna; but I do wonder why she let this man run/rule her life.
I wonder how her girls felt about him while they were dating. Why did Donna let him keep her girls from their grandparents. Where is the dad of the girls?
My heart go out to the entire family.