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October 26, 2005, 3:20 pm PDT
i can understand
Quote From: krickettedr. phil, i am 37 yrs. old . i got married at 14 and had my first child at 16 , then my second at 18, third at 21. i have very ,very bad strecth marks on my stomach, the dr. said they were the worst he had seen. i have been like this since i was 16 yrs. old i would love to know how it feels to look normal.not only do i have stretch marks, my stomach is flabby at the bottom. i have lost 65 pounds, i also need breast implants, my poor breast look like hanging bags of empty skin. i have spent my life giving to my kids, i have never had money to spend for myself. i have always wanted to look and feel normal but i always put my kids first. no one can understand how it feels to be ashamed to even get undressed in front of your own husband,i have felt like this all my life, i pray every day that one day i can get help,i would love to have plastic surgery, i deserve to be proud of my body, i worked hard to lose the weight, but my body don't look like it. 3 good things has come from all this heartache and it was worth all this shame about my body ,my 3 wonderful children,i love them more than life it self. I can understand exactly how you feel. I am you and you are me. We are in the exact same boat. I have been ashamed of my body for the past 26 years. I don't know what if feels like to have worn a bikini, felt sexy, been unashamed . It creates such a sense of being self conscious that it has stopped me from dating at times due to fear that he might see me naked at some point. It's horrible and I truly can understand. I too would like to feel normal before I die. I have massive stretchmarks, extra skin, sagging breasts...the whole thing. I even have stretch marks behind my knees!! I weigh 105 lbs and people say "oh gain some weight and fill out the skin"....it's not that easy ..for one thing I just don't gain weight and for another ..gaining weight will not fix the problem. I also now have an ugly scar from a hysterectomy which only adds to the disgust.
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