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I am always amazed to see how people justify 3-somes and sex outside of marriage. To compare something as precious and beautiful as sex with your mate to a "vehicle test drive" is absurd! It is 2 very different things.  My husband and I waited for each other.  Our wedding night was the first time and we loved every minute of it.  Sure I was nervous and there are issues we had to deal with over the next couple weeks, but it was all the more special and memorable because of the wait.  Because I had never had anyone else, I can't compare him to anyone else, rather I can fully appreciate him for being himself.  I also think it is truly flattering to know that your mate thinks you're special enough to wait for you.  

As far as living together, read the stats....over 80% of people who live together never get married, and  of those who do, over half wind up divorced.  Sure you get to know the person, but isn't that what dating is for?  Sure we encountered a few surprises after we got married, but again, we worked through them.  I truly believe the major problem with society marriage and sex issues today are the simple fact that we have gotten away from serving each other rather than ourselves.  There are days (especially now that I am an exhausted mommy) where I am not in the mood, but when DH comes home, if I think he may have had a bad day, I will offer myself to him because I know it cheers him up.  If I have a bad day, and his is good, he will wine and dine me a bit, whcich typically puts me right in the mood! For DH and I, divorce is not an option.  We have had our trials, but we are forced to work through them.  Any type of sex outside of our "couple" relationship is totally off limits, but between the two of us, anything goes (in private) as long as we both agree.  We set up those rules together before we got married, and I can honestly say I don't regret a thing!