Quote From: pommomThanks for sharing - and at leaste making me feel that I'm not alone. I'm 35 now. We dated for 5 years before we got married and I'm married now for 9 years, so all-in-all, we've been together for 14 years, since I was in my mid-twenties. So, I know how it is to be in my twenties and have this problem too. Now into my thirthies, I'm starting to really give up. I've become a "lump" on my couch, as I like to refer to myself. I used to like to go out, have fun, kick back, but I don't feel very happy or sexy or anything these days, so instead, I pretty much stay in and mope.
I hope things change for you because you DONT want to be where I'm at in 10 years! In my situation, I thought things would get better, but they only keep getting WORSE because I feel like I'm married to someone who's only my friend. I'm just tired of trying, tired of crying over it - tired of being physically alone and emotionally alone and tired of having no intimacy and no connection the way other "normal" married people have.
I'm jealous of my friends that have a healthy sex life, which, to me - is pathetic. Just the sound of that - "jealous of my friends who are having sex "- makes me feel so ashamed and pathetic. I don't get what is wrong here. We've had sex problems for so long that I know he is feeling bad about it, too, and my husband won't ever come to me for sex, either. We are in the same boat for sure...I think our "boat" is sinking, though...hope you swim! Save yourself! ... I'm already drowning.
You know not long ago we had a talk about our sexual relationship and since that time things have been alot better and I feel closer to him now more than ever. I totally understand about how you fee like a "lump" I do too sometimes. My husband works many hours and I am home by myself waiting for something to happen....but I have taken things into my own hands just recently and many times he calls me before he comes home so I get into a sexy outfit or completely naked and great him when he comes home and that always works, I leave him love messages different places for him to find.....he likes the dirty ones...(hee hee), I just decided I need to take charge and change it if we couldn't do it together and you know it's like when we were first dating we are so happy to see eachother now and it's more exciting. I hope you don't drown! Try some of these things. He won't be able to resist.
