Replies to '12/27 Extreme Parenting'

 Wow, thank God, this situtions you been through is so much what I have been through. Welcome to club. Must be tough Must be scary part  Must be tired us out, but where is our door where is our supportive. My  2 adult children are from 19 to 21years of age. My daughter growing up  is in college to get family abusive education and become social worker. Nice huh very well education she s trying hard and lots of struggled for her  because of her seeing things in the past that happens to our family. Alcholic, verbal abusive, abuse. She put her foot on the ground enough is enough and stand up for herself to speak her dad how she been feeling how she s been hurt. He 's very distrub guy and very aggressive threats when she does that. He can try anything to get back to her. He knows all those years he made mistake its  not just him its me and him. My daughter is soo angry with me for stay with him.Long story make short o k. I m tired of her repeat stories yes. People friends are telling me that she take the course its hard on her she sees things and goes back to tell me to leave him now before too late. Look my husband  changed for one bit. He quit drink and been clean for 14 yrs which Praise the Lord to being with . He s been charged  abused me. After he s been charged he stop abused me . I didnt want to go back with him after been charged. I guess I was brainwashed and alots of fears for being deaf mother do have alots of supportive the only way is we went for couselling for years to solved it Childrens  Aid involved honestly I didnt want him at all. All in my mind is having him  as for love  for all myself .  ITs nightmare found out Children Aid are pain in the A////  there are alot of lack of commication.  My husband knows that he should not used the verbal words. Roll my eyes up. One thing is I should know better. The older I m getting the wiser I seen it and feeling guts  the more I do the more I have fears for safety and not loosing things that means alot to me.  My son now  19 he s private guy. Stay out of trouble. If we have problem he s out  not want to be part of it.  He s good to talk out to solved out. My daughter nope 21 yrs old she been stubborn and spoiling brat. She knows she shouldnt be  involved when there is something  s going on between him and me . Its too late. Of course I m very  numb  angry depressed and want take my old self  back and start over again.  

I understand how you feel you dont want children grow up without  father same way as I do. I do strongly beleived marriage stay put family stay together.  I  m in couselling right now and its really big helpful even I m on medication   look I go on drphil.com message board it helps me alot. I warned my husband go couselling or marriage is over. Wow I bring up that I never said it before. Its starting. Couselling put us together to work as team and it will take time for him. I know no one s perfect.  One thing I m still in abusing by my daughter who hurt me  alot of time  no charged etc. She gets out on me instead go to her dad as can be charged and hurt. Yesterday my husband wants out of marriage because of her. I told her he cannot do this he let her to win. She s not here she goes college hardly home. Whats bigging thing?  

Today. I m making resolutions ruling ruling for year 2006.  I hoped I have stronger guts do it or else. I m soo idot for not let my husband go if he wants out of marriage then I should be glad as I won the batter. Shoot. Now I wished we could e mail together and support each other we do understand our feelings. My guts to tell you dont worry about be single mom. Try it if cannot go couselling for yourself first of all and start to work on it. We can  keep in touch.  HUgs