Quote From: princess1i was raped as a 9 year old child by the father of my parents best friend. it was years before i told anyone, and i only told when i found out that this man was also raping his granddaughters. i thought that maybe if i finally told we could stand together and bring this man to justice. my mother's exact words when i did tell her were "it never would have happened if you weren't such a little tramp". as far as i know this man never paid for his crime. now, 30 years later, my mother is a widow, and her friend (the son of my rapist) is also widowed. they are now in a relationship, and in fact are going on a cruise in a few months to scatter my dad's ashes. i hold this man also somewhat accountable, because when his own daughters were being raped by his father, he did nothing. my mother says i need to "get over it", but i dont know how. i dont want to try to pick her friends, but as long as she is in a relationship with the man who condoned my abuse, i can't let her be a part of my life or my son's life. so, how do i work through this one?
Wow, get over it huh? I really hate that when
people say that. We did not choose this, it
was put upon us by someone else.
I myself would walk and not turn back, you
never got your mothers support and you
probably never will. I know that may sound harsh,
but I think we hold on to the dream of what
we needed our families to be for us. It just
doesn't happen that way, see I would dream of
having this family that would love and support me
in anything, so I kept contact with my mother in
hopes that that would happen soon. She would call
me and we could go shopping or "do lunch".
Well I realized that I don't want my mother to call
me, I want the mother I never had to call me.
There is a big difference there isn't there?
I am really sorry that you have not had the support
that you needed from your family and for your
mother to call you a tramp? OH that makes me
real mad! You are a "Princess" I hope that you
really know that, I like that you picked that name
for yourself. I hope that you are well and that
you can feel free to post here anytime. Take Care!
mj
