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October 29, 2005, 12:40 pm PDT
It's hard for me to ask him
Quote From: latingirlHave you talked to him about this issue? Apparently there is an issue with it otherwise he would do it, if he use to. Maybe you can guide him down there when you are in the act of something sexual. Play phone sex or text him during the day and then somewhere in the middle say ... I have been craving you going down there and can't wait for that tonight! See what he says, if he ignores it.....there is something really wrong. He may not like it and only did it for your sake earlier. But find out, it cant hurt to discuss it. Ask him how he would feel if you didn't do the same for him.
SORRY, this sucks! Thanks for you advice. It is just so hard for me to ask him... I think it is the feeling that I don't want to make him feel like he is doing something wrong or NOT doing enough. I guess I don't want to hurt his ego.
But I am at the point where I resent him a lot as I am giving him oral sex. In my mind I am thinking "Wow, here's your third time this week, and when will I get even my third time in a year and a half?!?"
I think that he maybe just doens't like it in general. From my understanding, before he and I met, he was sexual active with a lot of women. It upets me, but he has had A LOT of partners at least 6 times the number of partners I've had... yet he has only givien two of his partners oral sex (including me)... and the other woman was a long term relationship as well. So maybe he really doen't like it.
I think it bothers me most remembering when he used to give me oral sex at the begining of our relationship... so I know he CAN do it. And I haven't changed down there at all... I've even improved on something that he requested ( shaving down there). I did that fo rhim because he likes it, but I'm still not getting any action!
I will try what you told me to do though.... try to playfully ease into the subject.. That might work... the last thing I want is to make him feel bad.... but I'm very bothered by this situation (as I'm sure a lot of people would be)!
Thanks,
Nat
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