Quote From: hun911I have written on this board several times, and all about the same guy. We have been off and on for about three years, and are both 25. When we first got together everything was great for the first year and a half, until we started fighting a lot. I have some trust issues and it seemed like a lot of fights would stem from that. We then got back together about 4 months later, adn things were great again. But then he had a personal trajedy and went into a big depressoin that eventually led to us breaking up again. About 6 months after that he came to me saying that he made a huge mistake and wants me back. So we have been trying but it has not been successful. I can't seem to get over that he hurt me, and on top of the trust issues, I can't seem to get past the bitterness and resentment. This causes us to fight and he then has doubts that this is not how it should be. I love him, and ultimately would love for things to work out, but when is enough to much?? Right now we are trying to take the "intensity" out of us and have some space. I am also his first serious relationship and sometimes worry that he will eventually leave because of this. I try to stay positive because being negative really doesn't help any. Does anyone have any advice about what we should do?? Should I even stick around if he is having doubts too???
I just wanted to let you know that i am going through the exact same thing. Me and my boyfriend of a year and seven months just split up in March. We've been trying to work on things but we fight everytime because he always hurts my feelings and makes me cry and when I tell him about how he hurts me, he turns it around and makes me feel like its my fault. He's my first true love and I can't even imagine being with anyone else. I love him more than anything in this world but i know its not gonna work cause i've tryed and tryed to make it work and I always get hurt. So I'm leaving him alone because my heart can't take it. It's gonna take time but you will eventually get over it and find someone better. Thats the way I keep looking at it. Everything always happens for a reason!!!!!!!!! Thats the only way you can look at it. If u fight all the time, im telling you, "It Wont Change".
Keep in touch if u would like. Jessica
